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This sounds too familar for words.
Ok, I've been though similar.
1. You are the one that registers the child, the father will only be put on the certificate if he is there with you, can I also advise you not to put him on as the will over-ride any legal guardian you put in place. As such you can easily register your baby in your name. If a fathers name is not on the birth certificate they have to either get you to sign a document giving them parental responsiblity or go through the court to get the court to give it too him ( just incase make sure you have a good record of his criminal record and ANY VIOLENCE or trouble to ward you is reported to the police). On the negitive side my experience is that the courts do not care if they are violent toward the mother (if when they are holding the baby), or have a violent temper.
2.How do you creat a guardian, its simple you write a will, you your that worried my I also say a living will incase you are incapacitated stating that you wish such and such to be your child legal guardian.
I know you say you want your baby to know its father but do think hard about this if he is as you say are you sure that is in the baby's best interest. As I say I was in a similar position, my choice was different I looked into all the research which left me with that if the child never knows its father it is better off, do better at school and have better relationships when they are older, its different if they know their father then it happens the effects are very bad.
My advise is follow your heart, your a mum now (or at least will be soon) you will know whats best for your child, trust your instincts.And don't let this both you too much.
Big Hug
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