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![Smile [:)]](/forums/emoticons/emotion-1.gif) I want to ask for some advice, words of encouragement etc etc.
I have an 8 year old son & am currently having some difficulties with my ex husband.
He was a really bad father for the first few years of my sons life & hardly ever around whilst battling an addiction. He is now thankfully well again, has a new partner & recently another child. I am so pleased that for the past 2 years my son has had a father there for him. My son now loves seeing him & of course his new baby sister which I think is great & have always encouraged.
We have always been civil to each other & I am genuinely pleased he has found happiness with a new partner but recently he has been quite awkward and tries to make out that he is the better parent as he now has a family. When he was ill with his addiction, even when we weren’t together id still help him out, drive him around (as he lost his licence), cook him the odd meal etc etc as he was getting quite depressed, I don’t know now why I bothered.
After many years of him not being around, he now acts very righteous. He somehow forgets how bad he was in the past & what terrible things he put me through when trying to bring up a young baby. All I have is my sons best interests at heart. He’s a great little boy & we have a fantastic relationship. I am currently single but have a great family & lots of good friends around me & although I would like to meet someone special I am happy & enjoy life.
Anyway, the crux of the matter is; he recently brought my son a nintendo wii for his birthday, but will not let my son bring it home instead keeping it at his house. My son is only with his dad 2 days out of 14 so it seems very unfair to give a child a present they can hardly play with. Is that fair??? I feel the main reason he wont let him bring it home as he doesn’t want me to play with it.
My son now wants another one for xmas from me but I just cant afford it & don’t understand why any child would need 2!! Am I being unreasonable?
I don’t understand when for so many years I did so much to help him due to my caring nature & now he is being quite rude to me & sends me nasty texts trying to get me down. I am quite sensitive, therefore I do let things get to me. The whole situation does upset me but in general im a happy person & try to be positive. I just want to give my son the best life possible. Not that my ex has said it but its like they want my son to live with them to complete the happy family & the fact that my self esteem is low at the moment, it scares me. Im sure this would never happen as I know deep down my son is happy with me & we have a very close bond. I just cant stand this game playing & trying to buy affection! All I want is for my son to be happy & not feel like he’s stuck in the middle trying to please both of us!! Anyway, I could go on forever……any advice, helpful tips…??
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