 06-10-2008, 8:28 PM
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mazjayne
Joined on 06-10-2008
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dont know how to deal with this situation
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hiya everyone, im new to this site and was hoping for some advice. ive got a beautiful son whos 1yr, my ex left when he was 4mths stating he simply wasnt happy, it was a crap excuse!! hes moved in with some other girl now and lives about a 2hr drive away. althro i hate the fact my son has to do so much travelling every 10days or so i have been allowing it for the sake of him having a relationship with his father. but my ex seems to be taking the piss a bit and has been bringing my son back home late in the evening anywhere between 7:30pm - 9pm. stating it cant be helped because this women he lives with drives him around and if shes working late then it cant be helped. it may not seem like much of a problem, but its interfering with my sons routine and ive had many a sleepless night teaching him its bedtime and the same time every night and after having a sleep in the car for 2hrs and arriving home at whatever time hes so wide awake and excited to see me again it throws everything off. ive told my ex it cant continue and im not restricting his access to his son but i want him home by a certain time. however my ex is a complete div and cannot seem to realise why bringing my son home past his bedtime is a problem and is now threating to take me through the courts to get joint custody, hes also turning really nasty about it. i personally dont think im being unreasonable, but he keeps saying im putting my feelings about him before my son, and ya know when you hear something enough you start to believe it. is it more important for my son to see his father or for him to have a routine which keeps him settled and happy? i dont want to be fighting with my ex, im not exactly his friend but i realise i have to get on with him to an extent for the sake of our son. ive had no financial support from my ex since the day he left, and he has no idea how hard its been for me to bring our son up on my own, ive worked so hard getting my son settled and sleeping through the night, i dont want anything to unravel that.
how should i handle this situation??
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