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15-05-2008, 10:10 PM inga83 Joined on 15-05-2008 Posts 1 pregnant and alone... can i really do this??? so i'm 24 live in australia and have a 2 and a half year old son... i have been spliot from his father for about a year but 6 weeks ago we had a bit of fun and now i'm pregnant... although we both stll have feelings for each other there is no talk of us getting back together as we just don't work... i thought about abortion long and hard and thought that it was the best thing to do but i couldn't, knowing joy and love a child can bring, it just wasn't for me. i'm terrified now, knowing that in 7 and a half months i'm going to have a three yo and a new born to care for. i have great family support and the father 'says' that he is going to be there but i know from experience that he isn't very reliable... i just don't know if i'm gonna be able to do this, just wondering if anyone out there has any advice or has been through a similar experience...    Report

16-05-2008, 8:10 AM Jay Joined on 20-09-2005 Posts 106 Re: pregnant and alone... can i really do this??? You can do this. Don't panic!!! A 3 year old is quite self reliant and you may find even willing to help, you already have the experience and knowledge of the first one. I can't comment on having more than one child but i can on doing the whole pregnancy on my own. The nerves your feeling now sound very familar but don't question yourself, believe in yourself. It will be alright. Take care Jay    Report

15-07-2008, 12:45 PM karina38 Joined on 15-07-2008 Posts 6 Re: pregnant and alone... can i really do this??? Of course you can! In fact, having two is in some ways easier, as they keep each other entertained for the rest of their days together. So much more sociable than being a single child! And as you have been through it all before, so you know what you are in for. For me - birth was so much easier the second time around! Get as much help as you can - friends, family, government, workmates, distant relatives, anything - to get you through the first three to six months. Be prepared to be a bit emotional at times - that is normal, but it wears off. And tell the father that he is going to get the children XX days/hours on the week and XX weekends, starting as soon as possible... but increasing when you chose to go back to work. I am in Australia, too, single mum of two kids 8 and 11, and things are great - amazing job, house, and healthy kids who see their dad regularly. You can do it too. K.    Report

25-07-2008, 1:28 PM baby baby scottish baby Joined on 25-07-2008 Posts 1 Re: pregnant and alone... can i really do this??? Trust me i know exactly how you feel. I was with my boyfriend for nearly a year, engagement and moving in together had all been discussed. Everything was going fine until he went to a stag do in Ireland and when he came back we had some space for a few weeks.  When we started to work things out i had my suspisions and found out he had been contacting a girl in Ireland about meeting up and a girl around the corner from where we lived who he had known for years.  As soon as i confronted him he told me things with us were over and that he could not trust ME to put things right. The next day i found out i was pregnant, and although he made it clear that my only option was to have an abortion i really could not go through with it. we are now on speaking terms and he has promised to help with the baby when it is born (however he is now in a relationship with the girl from Ireland) i am at a complete loss - my friends and family are great about it all however im struggling with the emotional aspect of the pregnancy...   5 more months to go and hopefully it will all work out.        Report

25-07-2008, 2:13 PM Jay Joined on 20-09-2005 Posts 106 Re: pregnant and alone... can i really do this??? It sounds like you'll do fine. Pregnancy is an emotional rollercoaster but after talking to mums who had partners whn they had their baby. I think its actually easier without a partner, no one getting jealous of the baby or complaining they don't get enough time with the baby or just generally making demands on you before your ready to cope. Doing it all alone means you get to be completely selfish and indulge yourself in being babies world. I too was single before I found out I was pregnant so if you need a vertical hug or just to talk to some one who's been there too, please just give me shout. Take care Jay    Report

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