 14-08-2007, 1:19 PM
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Jay
Joined on 20-09-2005
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Re: to divorce or not to divorce?
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Oh sweetheart, I feel for you.
This is the worst time to have to face this, as your emotions are bound to be all over the place.
I think the best think you can do is find out everything you can, I am aware that some solicistors do free clinics once a week, it may be worth turning up to one and finding out everything you can.
You need to know if you divorse what happens to your home if its joint owned, what sort of settlement you could expect and the maintenance but you need to know what you may loses. If you divorce comes questions of access, possibly even nights away from your little one, how would you feel about this. Its a lot to take in. The solicitor may also be able to advise on if you don't divorse, what rights he automatically maintains (a horrible thought but you don't want to come home one day to find your home for sale, or hes moved back in and kicked your stuff out).
Until you know the facts you cant decide this, and as hard as it may seem try not to make this an emotional decision, I know you want to move on with your life but you also need to be able to provide for your son.
Sadly I'm not the best person to advise you as I've never been so fortunate as to marry, so I can only give you what I think I would be doing in your position.
But before you actually do anything, you need to accept he's gone and even if you had him back things could never be the same, you probably would struggle to trust him again.
It sounds like your about to find out your stronger than you think, believe in yourself you will make the right choice for you and your son.
Take care, big hug
Jay
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