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02-07-2007, 5:18 PM shash Joined on 02-07-2007 Posts 1 Feeling alone Hi, Well i have just found this site on google and this forum sounds like a good place to tell you how im feeling and if anyone has any advice that would be great as i feel like im the only person who is going through this horriable time right now and its a very lonley feeling. Im nineteen years old and i have a beautifull little girl called olivia, who is just 11 weeks old. I have just recently split with my partner of 3 years and cannot come to terms with it. Although it was my a joint decision i cant seem to come to terms with it. The reason we split was because we were not getting on, we seemed to row all the time about anything and everything. He never payed me any compliments or did anything around the house, we just made each other miserable. We were going to spilt up back in august but i then found out i was pregnant and we decided to give it a go. Now im on my own and i feel worse then when we were together. I just scares me that i will never meet anybody and even if i did they would not want me because i have a child. Not only that but i put on alot of weight when i was pregnant and can't seem the loose it, so i have no confidence or self asteam. I hate the nights just sat in on my own with olivia, thinking is what it is going to be like for the rest of my life. Im wanting to move back home with my parents, but i know that they wont want me to because i have olivia and should have worked at my relationship. Is anyone else in the same situation or have been?    Report

17-07-2007, 10:05 PM jersey girl Joined on 17-07-2007 Posts 2 Re: Feeling alone You're not the only person going thru it. I'm 27 and have a beautiful five month old boy. My husband of four years left the day before he was born and is now dating a friend of ours. I'm just as scared as you about the future. Everyone says it will get better but I just don't see that at the moment. Every day i struggle to get thru it. Every night i cry myself to sleep. I feel fat and useless ( his new girlfriend is slim and pretty) But then i look at my little boy who is stunning and i remember that he is part of me and so i can't be that bad. Talk to your parents - they may surprise you, and even if they don't - find someone who you can trust and talk to them.  I hope it gets easier for both of us.    Report

19-07-2007, 10:30 PM trina Joined on 12-07-2007 Posts 4 Re: Feeling alone Hi It will get better my husb left about 7wks and although we had hardly spoken for months I fell to bits. BUT suddenly I realise that I dont need in my life full time the atmosphere at home is so much better and I am not walking on egg shells. I do miss him I cant deny that he is here for thekids and actualy spends more time withthem now than he did before. Also the resentment I used to feel about his lack of support has gone as I now just get on with it. AND I dont have to cook a meal every night or wash his undies!!!!!!! As far as meeting someone else give yourselves time to heal and adjust to your new lives you never know what is around the corner. And whenever you feel down look at your little people and remember you have them with you and they will always remember and love you for that.    Report

24-09-2007, 9:10 PM Nat26 Joined on 24-09-2007 Posts 2 Re: Feeling alone Me too - just split from abusive relationship of 4 years and have a 13mth son. Its only been a few days now so feeling lonely and lost plus have financial and childcare stresses ontop. Shame about the circumsatances but good to know im not on my own. I too cant go back to parents as no room plus i lived away from home too long to give up my personal space. Scared for my son as he used to us being together and unsuire how this will effect him - feel like poo, sad and very alone.    Report

04-12-2008, 6:45 PM lorraine Joined on 04-12-2008 Posts 4 Re: Feeling alone I know how you feel too, try and keep yourself occupyed at nights it helps me, and remember, it wont be like this forever babe, as your wee one gets better you will slowly get bits of your own life back,xxxxxxxx    Report

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