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31-01-2007, 8:51 PM susie Joined on 31-01-2007 Posts 1 please help hi i have just joined this site as i am feeling really down i am 28 with two children. i have just separated from my 6month old babies father after years of verbal abuse and just recently violence from him. i am normally so strong but i feel so weak right now i am working pretty much full time as so i can pay the mortgage as well as having both children and no time to myself.will this get better? thanks susie.    Report

26-07-2007, 4:46 PM Deon.Gould@uk.standardchartered.com Joined on 08-03-2006 Posts 3 Re: please help Hi, there It will get better I was once there thinking the same thing even though I only have 1 child.  My childs father made my life hell and I thought I would be depressed and all alone.  My son is now older and it has become much eaiser.  I was affaid that my life would be over, as long as you have family and at least a good few friends around to moan at you will be okay.  If I can get through it so can you stay positive keep a focus of what you want to do and follow it. Have this in your mind show your childs father that you are better then he is.   I hope this helps take care and all the best sweetheart x    Report

09-08-2007, 1:28 PM Jay Joined on 20-09-2005 Posts 106 Re: please help As has already been said believe in yourself, you can do this. As your little one is only 6 months old, your body is probably still recovering and your emotions aren't fully in check yet. With all this going on you'll probably have a bit of an emotional rollercoaster for a while, but you can ride it out, all you need is faith it will get better and it will. The other think to remember about the father is everything he did is his problem not yours. As for working full time, a good childminder can be a blessing, when it comes to advise on your child. Take the time at work as the time to be you, not just mum, and if you have family or a good friend willing to babysit, have a few hours off for you once in a while to let it all out. So think positive and believe ini yourself, try and find reasons to smile everyday. (tickling your little one, helps with this, who can help but smile when a little one laughs) Big Hug Jay X    Report

10-08-2007, 6:38 PM can't believe I'm single Joined on 10-08-2007 Posts 3 Re: please help Hi Susie, listen, just the fact that you are up and dressed is amazing! Just think of yourself as an amazingly brave and resilient woman, having taken the very hard decision to leave your *** of a partner who didn't deserve you anyway! My husband of 12 years has just left me and my two boys (11 and 9) and I can't get my head around it. I seem to go from being incredibly angry to incredibly sad and tearful. I have been having counselling for some time and I have to say, give it a try - it has really helped me. The biggest thing that I have learnt is that IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU, it's all about them. So allow yourself to have bad days, because you will, but you will have glimpses of sunshine along the way. Make good use of your friends and your family. Good luck to you, we women are strong! Love Geraldine    Report

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